I wonder because of the fact that you say she's had some really hard times if she's not projecting like, hey I went through hard times and I handled it this way, no one supported me, I didn't have the option of disability, etc etc etc (or whatever. I felt a little angry during my worst depression that disability wasn't an option for me because, man, going to work in my state was a nightmare. But that's not to say others shouldn't be utilizing it!)

Anyway, the fact that she doesn't have the ability to self-reflect and realize that maybe she was being hurtful makes me feel like maybe you're better off just moving on.