I rarely do this, but I have to strongly disagree with the above Poster. You are not displaying self-destructive behaviour, you are displaying normal concern for someone you are close to and have a hand in caring for. The above opinion sounds like it comes from the teachings of the most callous Psychologist - and I have been involved with them personally.

Now I know the story, I believe you are in a difficult situation. Your altruistic actions are clearly of great benefit to your friend, even while she is behaving in ways which are damaging to her health. If you are looking for positives, imagine how much worse off she would be without your input. Your altruistic actions are a great help.

As she is in Therapy, I would hope she is discussing her self-destructive behaviour with the intent to modify it. As long as you can continue to give your support without getting too frustrated, I am sure that - deep down - your friend truly appreciates your help. If, and when, the burden becomes too great, then you will have to take a step back.

As someone who needs daily support may I just say I am grateful for people like you. Thank you.

Dave.