You've completely misread me. Those men were NOT just interested in talking to me. They were interested in ME.


But they approached me with conversation and were in situations where it wasn't them just walking up to me in a coffee shop. One was my waiter and I was very clearly a traveller. The other worked at a tour company and I was clearly a tourist. They showed an interest in ME and not just their dicks.


And ffs you need to stop blaming society. There are just as many pressures on women as there are men! They all suck. You're not special in having challenges. The only thing that is stopping you is you. Not society.


The girl at the gym - you've interacted with her repeatedly. It's not like you are walking up to her from nowhere. She knows your face, she knows you attend the gym regularly. She waves or greets you.


People get to know each other somehow. It's really all in HOW you interact.


Which basically, you don't do. You don't interact. So of course you get no where.


It really sounds like you should just join a site like okcupid. You're not interested in conversation and you don't want a serious relationship. Basically you want a sex buddy. Best bet for that is on a dating site.