Boundaries are a good thing and it may be that you need to set some with your sister that are good for both of you. Too much of a good thing can become a bad thing. You shouldn't feel bad that you can't fullfill ALL of your sisters social needs. You will both enjoy your times together a lot more if its within limits. It's like finding the balance... compromising to the middle.

I have trouble setting boundaries with people and I tend to avoid interacting so that I don't have to push back when they crowd me. I feel guilty for having limits. I don't want to hurt other's feelings.

Truth is most people are okay with boundaries. They'd rather stay within limits so that they can feel more welcomed and valued. And most peoples feelings aren't hurt if we choose alone time over socializing.

Truth is we should all accept boundaries and we all should be accepting of each other limits.

When someone needy pushes on those boundaries it shows just how much more the boundaries need to be held strong for them. No boundary will be acceptable to some people until they know that the boundaries will not change.

Above all else we need the boundaries for ourselves so that we won't recluse. So that we don't give up finding and maintaining the balance between alone time and social time. If pressured to engage in more social time than we are comfortable with then it will cost us in unhealthy ways. If we avoid socializing it will also cost us in unhealthy ways.

I think you were very wise to suggest other social outlets for your sister. It's now her choice what she does with those ideas. Her rejecting them should not alter the boundaries you need for your own wellness. Those are your boundaries for your relationship with her. She doesn't get to set them.... only you can set them. And they need to first feel right for you.

Balance... it always come back to balance. The universal principle for anything one can contemplate.

Excuse me.... I'm in kind of daze tonight. First therapy meeting with a new therapist today. Has me feeling and thinking rather sensibly bordering on some kind of niaive wish that balance was easy to achieve. Just a little light headed and fanciful perhaps.

Hoping for your success with your sister. You need to trust your instincts that are protecting you from crossing into overwhelming situation. You owe yourself that.

I think half the road to recovery is coming to terms with believing you are worthy. You owe yourself a good life. Our illnesses knock that belief out of us sometimes. Our illnesses are magnified by disbelief some times too. We are worthy of treating ourselves well. Boundaries are a sign of wellness if you think about it. They are not a sign of weakness. So says the heart to the head. The spirit to the brain. Have faith, conviction and determination to believe yourself worthy. It's the beginning of real peace and a joy to sshare with others.

Take care....