Thank you eskielover and chocolate lover. I will heed your words and try to relax. My crime on the other board seems to be that I can't ignore people who trigger me. I am still torn about whether that would be the adult thing or codependent. When I was a kid on the school yard I was bullied. At first I cried. Then I fought back. The consensus seems to be that you just turn the other cheek on message boards. Is there ever a time when you stand up for yourself on a message board? This woman insulted my mother. She said my mother had not taught me manners. Since my mom just die I was infuriated. They all said I am just "too sensitive." Let me take a deep breath and try to let go.