I think we have to keep the boards in perspective to what's really important in life. People's views and opinions on the boards have to be taken with a grain of salt sometimes and not allowed to be a grain of sand that rubs you raw.

You don't need to defend yourself or anyone else in my opinion. People on the boards can not have enough real information to make absolute statements. Who knows where they are coming from and how clearly they are thinking at any time they post. There are lots of unknowns behind the boards so opinions will always be scewed by the lack of a full picture.

Yea I say find another thread or board or forum. Just resist the temptation to let any discussions or comments on the boards matter too much. That's what I learned from my experience. It took a while for the immediate sting of the experience to go away but its a lot better to stay out of unhealthy places and ignore useless feedback.

My energy is too precious to waste on useless arguements no matter how much I can justify the emotions at the time. It's just not worth the investment. I need to be energized not drained of energy fighting on principal or spinning around and around a disagreement.

Thats my view anyways. All the best....