To your situation I can relate I know how hard it can be and to be honest your mother sounds like my father he takes everything for as never payed child support and when we don't want to hang with him he says that we only hang out with him when it serves our needs when he knows thats a lie. He has be that delusionalized to truly think that he must be just projecting it on me and my sister because on the inside he knows the truth and can't deal with it so he just throws his **** on someone else. As far as a scrapegoat is I am like the buffer of the family I stay with mum or else she would have lost her **** and moved to madeira and my sister has it way worse than me she works her *** off and then has my dad driving her car when she works her *** off. In a way I can understand why she would be angry with me I am the lazy more laid back one who seems to be having it easy when in reality I am stuck here with mum to tolerate her ****ed up relationship with dad still witnessing the disturbing sexual slurs and degrading behavior he shows her. I sit back and watch but I feel like I am tied and i might as well not leave because my entire family will bring me back. sigh*