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Originally Posted by Macd123
Well the saga continues. I've been trying to get this woman out of my head for months and I thought I was doing okay. Well she sent me a photo of her and her boyfriend looking very cozy and I was back to square one. I don't know if I can sleep now and it's not fair because I was really trying to stay busy and leave her behind. I even been going to my therapist to talk about the issue. I'm really having trouble at the moment just trying to justify moving forward. I really am a desperate person and this one picture has me paralyzed. I know she doesn't probably know that she hurt me so bad and I'm trying to take the high road but this is extremely difficult. I know people here have encouraged me to look elsewhere but I just haven't and I don't know if I can. A friend is needed and I don't have one I can really talk to about this. I just had to write something or explode. Thanks
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The photo itself should be something that does not paralyze but grounds in you the reality of things. My point being change your thinking and use it as a means to help you accept the fact that there is nothing to hang onto and it's time to move on. No, I know that's not an easy thing to do but it's a must. Why do you say it has you paralyzed? you are imagining, hoping, and hanging onto something that is a fantasy, a dream in your mind. Dreams are all well and good but the ones that do not have the ability to become goals are not the ones we should dwell on.
Dreaming, hoping for a girl in your life is one thing but focusing that goal on one that is unattainable is going to always have the road end up at a dead end.
Shift your thinking to what it is that you liked about her, although individuals are all unique, we do share commonality in our behaviors and personalities. Clearly she has some qualities that you liked. Start thinking about what they were and form your own goals for what you hope to find. No experience, good or bad is without value and a "silver lining" Use this experience to learn about yourself, what you want and let it direct your path forward
