The words are especially used far too often when describing borderline personality traits.

It's not so much the literal sense of the words, but the very negative connotation: many of us might seek attention for our problems (or we definitely should), it might be a bad way of seeking attention, of expression, but we really need more attention, there needs to be more awareness of how and why we suffer.

Never feel guilty for seeking attention, but always try to find better ways of expressing that need.

Do seek attention. If people don't recognise your problems, don't ever feel guilty for causing them problems. Be a nuisance. You'll feel better caring for others exactly as much as they do for you, which might not be much.