To both Elsa and icare: I agree on your points about seeking attention in the right way but both of these responses for some reason seem to imply that roses has sought out the wrong attention.. please correct me if I'm wrong.

The difference in seeking help (or the right attention as you put it) and what "seeking attention" implies is that it is seeking attention for the mere attention to self. Seeking attention for the sake of attention to be the center of a group.

Seems like the explanations on the differences and splitting hairs about the words "seeking attention" is kind of detracting from the point of her post?