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Originally Posted by ElsaMars
*****Trigger warning*****
Not feeling guilty for causing people problems is impossible for most decently compassionate people. But if someone cares for you, they would prefer a nuisance over a corpse. FACT. And ICARE made one good point, always seek out the best and healthiest manners of getting attention, that is, if you are in your right mind. If not, reach out anyways and practice new methods.
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Maybe I regained some of my more antisocial behaviour, but I think that's healthy, having BP.
You can only change your ways of expression if it is a reaction to something that doesn't hurt as much. Not caring helps.
The first step in changing your ways in not changing your ways in themselves, but not suppressing your expressions, reactions to feeling hurt and/or need for attention. Embrace reactivity, even when uncontrollably so.
Next step would be to prevent that extreme reactivity by talking about your issues when you don't feel their full gravity. So learn to anticipate, not just react.
Basically, become more antisocial, but consciously and determined to use it increasingly sparingly and maybe not at all in the future.
This is like SZ and BPD, but done consciously. Not all aspects of serious problems are problems. The more serious, the better the defence mechanisms. Caring less and/or quicker. Many with just BP can learn from these mechanisms.
Learn to turn the other cheek, but don't let compassion destroy you.