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Old Sep 12, 2007, 09:04 AM
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((((canders))))

First, I send you gentle hugs dear. You are NOT to blame in anyway. You were the child, he was the adult. You did nothing wrong. You are not bad and by no means did you EVER deserve it.

Canders, what you have written here is not bad, it is okay. You deserve to be heard and validated for your feelings. It is that bad. Everyone's hurt is their hurt and it hurts just as bad as the next person. It matters not whether it was one time or a hundred. Once is all it takes to destroy a life.

My heart goes out to you for what you have gone through. I can say I understand. Whether he was drinking or not, he is responsible for what he did. We are human, our bodies do not know that abuse sometimes does not feel good. Especially when it is done in such a way that is not in anger.

But abuse is abuse, anyway you look at it and it is not right. There is never an incident when a child is ever at fault. Sometimes, when things happen, it is such a shock that you do not have time to think and then things happen before you have time to react.

You are worthy and your story holds alot of importance. Because it affected you, and you deserved none of it. You do deserve good and love. You were NOT BAD. I do understand the feelings you are having, for I too fight this everyday. But canders, you are a beautiful person that has a wonderful heart.

You are feeling what you need to be feeling. You are entitled to feel anger and hurt. Viscious anger hurts, justified anger is okay. You are a good person and you deserve all our support and care we can give you.

Thank you for sharing your story. It took alot of courage and strength to write that. I thank you for your strength, for it is in that strength that you have given me courage to write. I send you love and prayers.

I hope you will keep reaching and posting. I care and I hear you. Everytime you reach, it is one more time you take care of you. And you deserve that. We are here for you anytime. Love you.

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