(((( Butterflygirl ))))

I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience on the other site. I sure hope we can make you feel welcome here!! I too am A.A. A little over 2 years now. We have an alcohol and substance abuse forum here that you might find helpful.

Just like with any community, whether it be online or in person, everyone has their own opinions. And sometimes opinions can be expressed in a way that we take personally.

I try really hard to treat anything like a buffet line....I take what I want and leave the rest. I have to use self-care measures, and that includes ignore when necessary. I also have my "favorites view" set only to the forums I'm comfortable with. The ones I'm not comfortable with, I don't visit.

My mom also died.....8 years ago on the 15th. I've just finally been struggling with the grief after drowning it way with alcohol for so long. Sounds like you and I might have a lot in common.....

Mellors is absolutely right about the moderators. You can find us by clicking the "who's online" screen, our names are in green and if we're online, we're visible. You can also send a PM to all moderators by clicking the little link at the very bottom of the screen.

We do our best to help members feel welcome and to put a stop to any flaming comments. I hope you find a home here; this place has literally saved my life quite a few times.


Rayna