first the drinking isn't going to help it will just make the symptoms worse and more easy to access -

he has to learn and you too what his triggers are - when he gets upset after he is calm that's the time to discuss what went on and how it happened

PTSD is not an excuse to get physical with someone - there is NO EXCUSE to get physical - if he feels like that then he needs to give himself a time out - leave the room till he is calm - when my anger got explosive I would remove myself from whee there were people

is he getting councilling? seeing a therapist? he needs help to get through this - meds may also help in the short term to help him deal with his probs but therapy is what gets you through

there is a combat section here so maybe post there for ideas

living on eggshells is no way to live for either of you

there is a book that is really good to help you understand and would prob help him too - its called the PTSD sourcebook - its the best book ive read and its really easy to read - no jargon - or technical stuff - which is why I liked it - I had lots of ah ha! moments when I read it - if you cant afford to buy it then try the local library-

please for both your safety's let him know that violence will not be tolerated - its a slippery slope and you don't want to go there

stay safe and if I can help PM me

P7