The question of why you are getting married is important.

Also the fact that you are NOT discussing these issues with the man you are going to marry concerns me.

However I know that I discussed those exact things with the guy I was going to marry back in the early 70's when career & not having kids wasn't anything normal. The idiot agreed with what I was saying only to find out years later that he believed that I wouldn't feel that way after I got married. I NEVER changed.....but he never changed in his immaturity or his inability to communicate in truthful ways with me.

Yes, I fought because I hated not being able to communicate. I would try to talk to him & get looked like as if I were the one speaking a foreign language. When I would ask him why he did something he would come back with the childish response "I don't know" EVERY TIME.....or respond with "Whatever". By the time I left him I was seeing red every time I had any contact with him. Come to find out, he is the one with the emotional inability to connect & the inability to communicate as I realized I was dealing with someone who was ASD. I stuck around for 33 miserable years before I could finally escape but had escaped in my career for as long as I could.

If you truly want a good marriage, then YOU have to communicate with the man you are going to marry & you have to make sure he communicates with you in REAL communication ways that aren't just avoiding saying what truly is important.