Maybe YOU need to find a way of disciplining your child that would be positive for the child & not make your wife feel like you are doing NOTHING. Doesn't sound like you are taking a very active role in the marriage from what I get from your writing.

Sounds like your wife has no respect for you & maybe you haven't given her anything to respect. Marriage is not based on love alone or just because you don't want to live alone. It's based on having a good relationship together & working together for the best possible family environment. Sounds like maybe you don't know what goes into making a good marriage & maybe BOTH of you need some good counseling go get your acts together in the marriage & make it a REAL marriage.