First off, you can't have someone stay without having a relationship....it just doesn't work that way.

Sounds like you have a lot of self issues that you are dealing with. I hope you have a therapist who you can work through these issues with. Maybe they could help YOU define your behaviors better so that they don't confuse others. People have a tendency to stay away from people they can't figure out & if you have problems expressing yourself so that they can figure you out, then help is necessary.

We need to get to know ourselves & have a good definition of self so that others can know how to relate to us better. When we blow around in the wind because we ourselves aren't stable, it causes us to get knocked around by others.

Maybe it's time to work on your own personality for awhile not just how you look because people are attracted to personality, not looks in the long run, that is the only thing that keeps people together & people tend to not knock people around who they respect.