Thank you SO much for your POV. It helps me a lot to see it from his perspective instead of just griping. Of course you're right that the money's not there - I just found out it costs upwards of $6,500.00!! Yikes!! I never really thought of it this way, that it feels humiliating to him to not have the resources for this. Of course, it's not something our son NEEDS - if it were a medical need or something of course we'd do whatever we had to do to pay for it. But this is something that yes, will look good on his resume I would imagine, and would be a growth experience and a lot of fun of course, but he doesn't NEED to go. I guess what really peeved me off about his comments were that our son did not ask us to pay for it. He stated he was going to work on figuring it out himself. I'm not sure how, because that is a LOT of money especially for someone who has never held a job, hell that's a lot of money to ME and I've been working since I was 15 (38 years!!)

Anyway sorry to rant. Again I appreciate your perspective.