Blue...I agree that being presented with a list would only increase your anxiety. It sounds like he's trying to encourage you, but doesn't understand that by doing the list thing he is only aggravating your depression.
One thing I do...I'm pretty much always overwhelmed by the things needing to be done, and so I make my OWN small list. I do one thing (like yesterday I pulled all the weeds out of the front landscaping ..small area...but I'd avoided it for a couple of months!), and checked it off the list. Sprayed my dog for fleas...checked off list, etc! Just small things, but when I have three or four things checked off, I feel pretty good.
Maybe suggest to your husband to let you make your own lists and accomplish what you can when you feel like it!
Love
Patty