So, your husband brought up the unspoken thing you have been so worried about. Now it is out in the open and you get a chance to weigh in on this. Will your husband listen to your thoughts and hopes and fears? I hope you are able to begin to process this scary prospect. I'm not saying that this applies to you, but a few months ago I was out of my mind with worry that my husband would leave me if I left my well paying job. I told my daughters my fears, they reminded me that if I really thought I couldn't live without their father, then I was strongly codependent. Please put yourself first right now, eventually the rawness will wear off. I hope your family steps up to show their support for you.