My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years. He's a great person and he's been nothing but kind to me. We're quite incompatible sexually though, which is a huge problem for us. I've been doubting the relationship for a while.

I currently have some kind of crush on a person I'm working with (I think so). She's beautiful, I smile every time I see her, I feel a bit nervous around her and I pay more attention to her (when she walks by etc.) than other people. Yesterday when I was walking home from work I was thinking about what it'd be like holding her hand, go out with her, kiss her etc. I'm not in love with her. I hardly know anything about her. This is probably superficial, but it's still there. I'd never do anything about this because I'm in a relationship and I'm not a cheater.

Being attracted to people other than your partner is normal and I think crushes are too (as long as you don't act on them). It makes me feel like a really bad person though. Mostly because I don't really feel this way about my boyfriend anymore. Like I said, I've been doubting the relationship for some time but every time I think about maybe leaving my boyfriend I get super scared. Part of me thinks leaving my boyfriend would be the biggest mistake of my life, but the other part of me thinks I can't live like this. I'm unhappy (not only because of the relationship).

My boyfriend's a wonderful person and I really don't want to hurt him. Thinking about hurting him breaks my heart. I often even think it'd be easier and better to off myself than to hurt him.

I'm a bad person. I feel stuck but there's no guarantee that I'll ever find someone else who wants to be with me. I'm a bad person who'll die alone.

Is it normal to have crushes on other people while in a relationship? Any other thoughts on this?