I wonder what kind of way does your therapist work? Do they invite you and encourage you to say what is happening for you in the relationship? My t works primarily with Gestalt which is very relational with a focus on the "here and now" relationship.
She will invite me to say what is happening for me in the room and why I think this is happening with her. She asked last night why I had withdrawn from her and I said it was because I was angry with her. Often she will say what is happening for her in the room.
When I see clients I encourage them to say what is happening in the room with me as we interact together. A lot of clients have social anxiety so it gives an awareness of the triggers and what happens in their bodies if they start to get anxious.
I hope that you can find a way to discuss the t relationship with your t and that they really listen and hear you in a supportive way