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Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress
I have talked a bit about progress in therapy but I've never had the nerve to talk directly about my own feelings about my therapist or about the process and all of that stuff.
I've come to realize how much this mimics my own family dynamic. My family is affectionate, we say "I love you" at the end of every conversation but we don't talk to each other about our feelings, our fears, our needs, or concerns for each other in any direct manner. We figure all our own stuff out internally and 'don't bother' each other with our stuff. This leaves each of us in a worried dark place.
And I feel that way with my Therapist, of course.
Do you ever just talk about your relationship with your T? How do you do it?
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Oh yes. On a pretty regular basis!! At first, I hemmed and hawed around it like crazy and could barely say what I was trying to talk about, luckily she caught on, and it became easier. I've emailed it to her too, that I wanted to talk about it and asked her to bring it up. After all this time (4.5 years) I'm to the point now where I can just go in there and say "T I need to talk about our relationship (or "us" and I do air quotes) again." I tell her how sometimes I hate it, sometimes it's confusing, sometimes I want to tell my "process" to go take a flying leap, it's the most convoluted relationship ever, etc. Each time I have brought it up, it has gotten easier.