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Originally Posted by lolagrace
I do want a therapist who has gotten most of his/her serious issues under good control. We do see quite a bit of evidence here on PC of clients who have unfortunately been in the hands of a therapist who had not worked through enough of their own issues and those issues inadvertently bled into their client's therapy creating difficult problems. Is your therapist saying she is concerned you aren't ready to work with clients yet because of your own problems not being resolved far enough?
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She keeps saying it to me every week, she says we are not getting to the real work as in CSA and sexuality and I have done quite a lot of healing on that myself but I can't with her because I don't trust her. She constantly shames me, blames me and judges me and so I won't go there.
This weeks session was the worst. In fairness I am trusting her to have done her own work and resolved her own issues but the more we continue our work together it is obvious that she has not resolved a lot of her own issues and they do interfere in our work together!
I called her a hypocrite to sit there and judge me. In fairness I have done a lot more therapy than anyone else I know in my class and will continue to be in therapy for as long as I need even though I have more than completed the required amount.
I also told her that she doesn't know the work I do with my clients and I would never judge them like she has and does judge me, I told her to mind her own business and I know it was defensive but she really went too far this week. She never encourages and bits always negative.
I have a really excellent supervisor now, she is not my supervisor and crossed so many boundaries it is hard to seperate who she is and what role does she play in my life. T you are my therapist, not my mother and not my supervisor.
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