It has nothing to do with getting over it. I successfully got my BS degree & had a successful computer engineering career. What it has to with is how we relate to others successfully & how we emotionally connect with our own family & even friends. I couldn't recognize the problems that the guy I was marrying had because his crap was the normal dysfunction & lack of emotional connection that I grew up with. I didn't emotionally connect with my own daughter. I emerged myself in my career where I didn't need to connect with anyone beyond at surface level. That is where it creats issues in our lives & until we are able to get to the point where we can connect, we haven't gotten over it.