I'm not sure why people behave in such a way but unfortunately people are not considerate of others feelings. But it's necessary to protect yourself when you are in the dating world but also when starting a new relationship. With regards to the lingerie although you clearly have the approval of several gentleman I would just remind you that while as a rule most men do find a lady in her best undergarments very alluring but there are some who would rather you were wearing your grannies best pants �� But its all part of the fun finding out your partners likes and dislikes ��