With my T, telling her I had feelings for my marriage counselor. For some reason, just getting out the words, "Sometimes I just wish he could hold me" was one of the hardest things for me. To the point that I couldn't talk about it with her again for a couple weeks. (There's also one other unrelated embarrassing thing I told her that I don't want to go into here.)

Not surprisingly, it was also embarrassing to tell MC about those feelings, but he handled it well during the initial disclosure and in the two individual sessions we had after that. Partly due to the transference, and partly just the fact that he's male, talking about anything sexual in my relationship with H, which is a normal part of marriage counseling, was horribly embarrassing for me. Pretty sure the worst was when we brought up an awkward sexual experience in which I tried to do something different and role-play and H was just weirded out. I wasn't going to go into detail, but then H described the sexy schoolgirl costume I was wearing and how I was licking a lollipop and told him "I'd been bad" and needed to be punished. My face was burning, and I could not bring myself to look at MC until the very end of the session. And even then, barely.