I know I will get a lot of grief on this post, so bring it on.
I am 56 and have bipolar 2 with psychotic features. We have three kids and have been married 30 years. Even though I have been sick the kids have had a good stable life.
My 28 YO has a Masters and is a teacher.
My 25 YO has a degree and is working in insurance making good money.
Then we come to my 22 YO.
This kid has always had trouble in school since age 2. He was diagnosed ADD and took meds for a while. He wanted to drop out of regular high school to attend a "special" half day school. He did graduate.
He then decided to drop out of life for a year and smoke pot and work at McDonald's. He hated that.
We made him a deal. If he would move home and go to college, we'd fund him.
He got his associate's degree at the community college. He is now working on 1 1/2 more years to get his 4 year degree.
This all sounds good, right?
This what we do for him:
-cover all room and board
-provide a car (pay for repairs when necessary)
-cover all tuition and books
-allowance: $85 per week
-special cooking (he is a vegetarian)
-dad takes him on activities
-i've even done his laundry when he got too far behind

He does not lift a finger around the house. He is unappreciative and rarely says thank you. If his car is broken, we loan him one of ours till it is fixed.

His lowest grade right now is an 86. That is good.

Our goal is to get his 4 year degree. I am afraid if we kicked him out he'd be on drugs. He also is involved in doing "beats"? and enjoys that.

All of this is wearing on my mental state.

Any advice?

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