I really wish that this whole site allowed far less SO bashing! Nobody is perfect! and NO marriage or relationship ending is EVER just one party's fault!! You got a hard time letting go? Sounds like u have a hard time seeing urself as less than perfect "white knight". Just saying. As a woman I can say that even tho a break up can be devastating... what's far worse is feeling your partner slowly slipping away from you and being told that it's nothing or they are distant cuz of u or that u are crazy! If your not sure u want to be with someone then TELL THEM STRAIGHT AND HONESTLY! cuz u are not sparing anyone's pain or feeling by "hanging in there playing the good guy"... We are not stupid! We can see when we,are losing someone's interest and it is confusing as HELL to not know what is going on with your ppartner. .. just communicate for heavens sake! Maybe if you worked on both sides of what is causing the detachment, you wouldn't keep ending up with"psychos" .... cuz most of us ladies are generally pretty fair kind and caring, what pushes us over the edge into crazy behavior is knowing something is off but never having it be acknowledged! That feeling doesn't just go away and if you aren't honest it will leave her to her own devises to find the truth! Thus blowing everything outta proportion fairing up emotions hurt anger resentment etc and leaving behind more pain than nessecary! Just Man Up and say your not feeling it anymore!! It still won't be pretty... these thing rarely are, but it doesn't have to get to the point of ugliness and high damage! If u ever loved the woman at least give her a chance to walk away with some sense of dignity intact!