Sales 101 should be required teaching in public schools.

Also beggars can't be choosers. IE, either you do the choosing or you're always going to be "settling" out of whatever comes you way.

So why sales? Because if you did have sales 101 then talking to girls would be very easy for you. Salesmen are masters of small talk, not to mention subtle emotional manipulation, which, let's face it, is 99% of what the dating game is all about. Sure you can BS on about how it's all in finding who is right for you, but you can't know that from a 10 minute conversation now can you? Which is odd because most of the big stuff usually happens within those first 10 orso minutes.

Maybe a little exercise to help you. Instead of trying to sell her 'you', try selling her something else instead. It's easier to detach from emotionally, and so it should be easier to stay on top of the conversation without getting to emotionally invested. Hell you might even make a buck while you're at it!

Try not to do it at the gym though, they might not like you selling random crap at the gym.