I am hearing a lot of familiar things.

I just had a situation where I pushed and pushed so much that I pushed someone I cared very much for away. I don't blame him for leaving at all. It's a pattern which repeats itself in my romantic relationships with alarming predictability. What bothers me is that I've grown more secure in who I am over the years, and the ways in which I'm insecure are very insidious. I used to know that I was pushing away, and that I was insecure, etc. Now, while I can articulate certain ways in which the relationship is making me feel nervous, there are other times when I just feel inexplicably frustrated, sad, afraid, or downright angry. And looking back on what just happened between me and JD, I know that those are all a sign of some pretty intense stress and fear. The stress wasn't actually from what was between us (not the bulk of it), but the fear definitely was. I don't really have words of wisdom for you, honestly. For every man I've been involved with, there just came a time when they had to admit that they couldn't love me through my insecurity. I think what happened this last time finally gave me a kick in the rear to focus more on getting into a better headspace. But, though JD handled me like I was some precious thing--was kind, careful, considerate and said all of the right things--ultimately, I'm the one who has to fix the insecurity.

Sorry...I am kind of just throwing my two cents in. I'm not sure if my perspective helps. But I do understand this situation.