It doesn't help that the only trans guys that get any kind of 'good press' or publicity are the model-y types, the porn stars, the guys who managed to transition and look like the Hollywood stereotype. I think there's an illusion that being trans and transitioning automatically gives a person a sense of belonging (for lack of a better way to put it); I have found it to be the opposite. I am in so much the same boat as you. I have just come to the realization that I am a trans guy - not genderqueer, not neutral, not androgynous, though I've always felt baseline neutral or androgynous - but I too definitely have the body of a woman: very large breasts, very curvy, and I'm fat to boot. So it's like...nope. I have no idea what I'm going to do when I start getting clothes for my gender. Binding is so not even an option for me, and any kind of surgery will be out of the question for at least several years.

If you want some support I'm here for you. Maybe we can share what we find works and what doesn't. Feel free to PM/add me if you want.