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Originally Posted by Perna
It sounds like it is hard to find anything to engage with others about. Only you can have interests and hobbies and thus meet others that might be interested in those things too.
My therapist taught me an important concept when she commented how animated and interested/ing I got when talking about history and what I was working on with it (mostly genealogy now). You become a magnet when you are interested in something so find something that interests you and other people will be interested in you and talking to them won't be as difficult and will be pleasurable as they will be interested in what interests you so both sides will be engaged and engaging and things will "spiral up" instead of down.
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My interest
was reading about science mainly. When I find someone who knows about science, I will be delighted, and will be engaged. The other day me and another guy were talking about some topics in science, and we disagreed, a lot, but we were friendly and happy to present our different views, contrary to what people said here that I need not to disagree and made me sound as if I am a hostile person. Of course opening such topics needs some smooth transitions from simpler talks and introductions, and before that to approach someone and initiate a conversation, which is my main problem. I think I have the capacity to talk about different topics and engage in topics I'm not familiar with. The other day someone was talking to me about how he is interested in far-eastern spirituality, which I found it's something different as I'm a science person, yet we talked about it. But nothing goes beyond these talks.