Thanks for both of your insight. I'm also in a difficult marriage. My sister flirts with my husband and flatters him and tells him how wonderful his parents are and how much she likes them. In fact, everything I've shared with her that we struggle with, she's made a point to mention to him, taking his side.

She's not very nice to me. I don't mind seeing her at the holidays, but it exhausts me trying to keep up with her games. She was the hero in our family growing up and I got to be the scapegoat. She's content to keep that going, even though I've spent most of my life in therapy, learning that I'm an ok person.

The fact is, that before her husband left her, she didn't have much time for me.

I guess I need a therapist to validate me. It's hard to commit to spending all that money...again.