1) I now kind of want to have a session where I sit and colour dolphins. I might run it by my T. Maybe she'd sit and color with me.

2) Geez MLS. I don't know if it exactly constitutes a dual relationship but it sounds like your T is trying to also be your professor. Not a teacher in the mere sense of someone who facilitates learning, but someone who actually critiques and grades you.

3) Not only does she critique and grade you, she finds you wanting.

4) In finding you wanting, she fails to extend unconditional positive regard.

5) How will you learn to extend unconditional positive regard as a therapist if you have not experienced it? She is failing as a teacher in neglecting to give you what you need to become a therapist.

6) If you can't do it for yourself, can you picture a future client who desperately needs your unconditional positive regard? Can you think of the needs of that hypothetical client (pretend they're me maybe) as you find yourself a T who can help you learn this attitude by example?

7) I just do not have any words for the inappropriate prurient prying about CSA. Does she get a feather in her cap if you talk about CSA to her satisfaction? It sounds like she's basically telling you that you'll never be any good at your chosen profession unless she gets to see you cry/barf/whatever while disclosing the gory details of your abuse.

8) To me that sounds like abuse in its own right.