Reading an article about Jung's idea of the process of individuation. This is by a Martin Schmidt:

"in his autobiography (1961), Jung presents us with a conundrum when he also states that the goal of individuation is detachment from emotional relationships. Emotional relationships he defines as tethered because they are relationships of desire with expectations of others. He recommends that in order to attain objectivity and selfhood, one needs to withdraw the projections inherent in emotional ties to others. In this light, analysis could be seen as the playing out of emotional relationships between analyst and patient with a view to facilitating the reintrojection of projections in the resolution of the transference/countertransference. Jung implies this when he describes the transference phenomenon as, without doubt, one of the most important syndromes in the process of individuation."

This hurts my head haha but I guess is what my t was talking about this morning when she said it's not a masquerade, but it's my projections. Maybe. I don't know. Interesting though.