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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile
You are not there to entertain the therapist with intense material or satisfy their need to witness extreme emotional experiences. If the most helpful and healing thing for you is to sit for fifty minutes in companionable silence as you color a ****ing dolphin, then the therapist's job is to sit there in companionable silence as you color a ****ing dolphin. That the therapist might find this boring says nothing about the needs of the client and everything about the needs of the therapist.
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I so want to color dolphins with my T now.
The work is never finished. It is process. A Therapist who can look at themselves clearly and willing to take credit for counter-transference problems in the dyad is essential. This is the key to doing your own work before and while working with clients.
I see alot of anger in your post, is this situation bringing up something for you? It may be good to look at transference. Who does this T remind you of? What do you feel when you are with this T, have you had these feeling before?
Whether a T has experienced a specific situation may not be necessary for connection. The ability to Empathize is.