OK, not always, but he tends to keep a lot of things from me. Especially when it comes to the house, bills, and stuff like that. We've been married for over 20 years and he has always been stubborn and controlling.

He tells me that I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with the stuff that he does. I don't work, so I guess he feels that he doesn't need to tell me anything because of that.

Right now my stress level is though the roof since he has not told me what is going on with a possible foreclosure. I only know that he refinanced the house or something like that, and we owe $400,000. And a realtor is helping him with some kind of payment plan. Last night he yelled at me told me that he didn't want to talk about this since it was late and he was tired.

I'm very upset by all of this. How can I get him to open up and stop being so damn secretive? What would cause a person to not want to tell their spouse anything unless they absolutely have to?