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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
OK, not always, but he tends to keep a lot of things from me. Especially when it comes to the house, bills, and stuff like that. We've been married for over 20 years and he has always been stubborn and controlling.
He tells me that I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with the stuff that he does. I don't work, so I guess he feels that he doesn't need to tell me anything because of that.
Right now my stress level is though the roof since he has not told me what is going on with a possible foreclosure. I only know that he refinanced the house or something like that, and we owe $400,000. And a realtor is helping him with some kind of payment plan. Last night he yelled at me told me that he didn't want to talk about this since it was late and he was tired.
I'm very upset by all of this. How can I get him to open up and stop being so damn secretive? What would cause a person to not want to tell their spouse anything unless they absolutely have to?
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Dear Shy, I wish I had some words of wisdom but I don't. I feel for you though. I have one of those, horrible communicators. He also is stubborn and controlling and for years I let him get away with it because I thought I was being too sensitive, i hated confrontation. I finally believe I deserve better from him Therapy for me is helping but I have pleaded with him to try marriage counseling or his own individual therapy. Would your husband be open to couples therapy? good luck hun!
