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Old Apr 16, 2016, 08:38 PM
scallion5 scallion5 is offline
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My therapist is continually doing one of two things:

1. He knows there's something important I want to talk about but he gets sidetracked on small details before we get there and runs down the clock; or

2. He goes along with what I talk about, but then at the end of the session he interjects what he thinks is important. This is often a very emotionally charging topic (i.e., trauma history stuff) and there's only 10-15 minutes left. Not enough time to process it at all.

In both cases, I get angry. In scenario 1, I feel I'm left "holding the bag," and unable to work through my emotions. In scenario 2, I similarly feel like I'm "holding the bag," and in this case it usually wasn't even something I wanted to talk about!

How do I help him change this? I've asked him before to reserve the last 10-15 minutes for "winding things down," rather than "stirring things up." He seems to just be really bad at time management.

I do try to wind things down. But then he'll toss a topic out of left field and it's like opening a door with a room full of monsters. Then he's off the hook and I"m left all weekend fighting them.

I'm livid. I am ready to quit over this. I don't really want to quit but it is so damaging. It makes it incredibly difficult to feel safe at all. It also makes me just really want to call him. I feel like if he breaks it he buys it, kind of. Like, if he opens it up, he needs to deal with it...but he refuses contact in between sessions.

I'm just...I dunno. wtf is he doing...???
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