I think it's very brave to write out these thoughts that you're having. I do feel hatred against men from time to time, and it's about sex, and at the same time it's not.
It seems to me like you have experienced sexual exploitation/assault.
Hmm... people recognise the way we think or feel through the way we're moving and what kind of facial expressions we have and stuff. So if you are emotionally hurt and easily exploited, there will always be men recieving your vibes so to say (transference) who have this exploitive attitude towards women.
So maybe therapy could help you learn how to recognise when you are slipping in such a kind of a relationship again?