I have personal aversion to people just showing up. I grew up in the city in the culture where it was common just knock on doors without phone calls or warnings. I have plenty of bizarre stories to tell . I also had exes who were just showing up and I am not talking about long term. Dated somebody briefly and left and then he'd be by my door a month later. For all he knew I might be dating someone else already! Etc if one needs me so bad they can mail a letter. Maybe I am bias here due to past experiences but showing up at ex's door with no warning doesn't sit with me well. What if he had a new date over? Or family event? Etcetc.

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