I guess thts d thing with laypersons. They seem unwilling or even unable to deal with others psychological pain or discomfort even if they are directly or indirectly responsible. Them denying you your feelings might even be a way of them shielding themselves from certain discomfort if they allow themselves to "see" and acknowledge that they are in fact responsible for the suffering of another. No one likes dealing with unpleasant "intrusive" feelings. I've been where you are countless times and all we want is recognition that we have indeed been wronged, and most probably don't deserve it. This also ties in with possible gaslighting as a manipulative tactic in the case if you're dealing with a narcissistic personality. Remember, to thine own self be true.