Baseline you are doing so well to maintain boundaries.I know how hard it is with mum and sister and with hubby too!If hubby refuses counseling well then still keep setting boundaries with him and maintaining it,eventually you will reap the benefits and he will respect you more.The relationship will either grow or fail.If hubby is a narcissist you are much better off without him anyway.Emotional vampires operate in relationships by feeding off your vulnerabilities and they only like having power over you, if they aren't in control and you aren't trusting them and accepting you are the problem and not their abusive behavior they get angry and more violent emotionally,they play mind games too.Do what you must to protect and save yourself.My abuser was my sister she pretended to love me to make me leave everything in my will to my niece,then she tried to drive me to suicide and caused arguments hoping the stress would make me have a fatal heart attack!Look after yourself please!