And you're SURE that he's clean? I only ask because my husband was an opiate addict and I thought he was clean. But then he died and the coroner found cocaine and opiates in his system. He died of an overdose. I did a little research because I knew his drug dealer and found out he had started using again three weeks prior and I had no idea.

My husband suffered from psychotic depression when he wasn't using. He would suffer from delusions such as I was cheating on him or I was planning on divorcing him. He was being treated by a psychiatrist but really needed therapy to deal with past trauma but unfortunately had no insurance so we couldn't afford a therapist.

Your husband may have a psychotic disorder such as schizophrenia or maybe bipolar or any number of other things that he has been self medicating for with drugs. What you stated does sound delusional and paranoid. But the only way to know for sure is to get an evaluation by a psychiatrist. Until then there's really not much you can do for him because when you're psychotic (as I have been) you truly believe those things are true. Sometimes you have an inkling that something is not right and that maybe you're delusional but not all the time.

Medication does help but it can take a long time to find the right one(s). And he has to be fully committed to being clean and getting treatment. If he's not there's nothing you can do for him. You can't help someone who doesn't want the help.

I hope he's willing to get treatment. It can and does help.