It does take time to realize that what & who you are is a wonderful valuable person & that you are right no matter what anyone else tells you. It seems that some people just like to tear other people down & it sounds like if you were in the scapegoat position all your life...that was what was happening to you. That place is hard to get rid of in your life & stick up for who & what you are & believe is right for you.

It is hard to turn off the outside chatter because they don't want to shut up....they have gotten away with it for years & that is the way they are. Sometimes the only way we can get rid of the bad is to completely stay away from it. Sometimes we need to stay away from it for a little while....while we are gaining the strength to know who we are & how important we are in our lives. Sometimes we can go back & let them in bit & piece at a time to see if we are strong enough to handle the situation.....but if we find we cant.....there is nothing wrong with cutting off relationships that hurt us. There isn't anything in this world that is worth putting ourselves through & hurting ourselves....family or friends. The most important thing in life is protecting ourselves first....& our personal relationships second. We need to know that it is ok to do whatever it takes to protect those things around us...& stand strong against those that are tearing us down.

I know this is easier said than done.....but it can be done & the relief we feel once we are there is amazing.

I hope you can separate yourself from your sister.....she sounds like a bad person to have around.....& the thought I have always held it that if the person is someone you would love to have as a good friend & want to have around you....great...otherwise, it doesn't matter how they are related.....if the relationship is bad...get rid of it.....sometimes we just have to protect ourselves.

Prayers for your strength,
Debbie