Hummmm...

Since your married...it would seem reasonable that you would be a topic of discussion during his pdoc appointment...you are certainly in his circle of influence...meaning you influence him and he influences you for good or bad...

I think what caught me off guard is the bring home another drug...that's odd for both the pdoc and your husband...I'm thinking that should have been something that you would discuss with pdoc...

Probably time to have assertive communication with pdoc and husband regarding the boundaries...from your post you think they crossed it? At least I do...

Sure they can talk all they want about you and how whatever affects him...you are open to do the same...unless your having a joint session...husband should not be drawing conclusions about you that would persuade pdoc to prescribe medication ... it was just plain wrong of both of them to cross that boundary...

I'm not sure I'm helping or stirring the pot her...my conclusion is assertive communication with both...