When I grew up, my mom's friends all had those traditional marriages where the husband kept the wife in the dark about the money matters.

I saw nearly all of those wives get thrown aside for younger women, and those men got away with keeping money from those wives that they should have been able to split upon divorce. These were long term marriages with children.

It scared me so much, I would never allow a man to keep our money from me.

I'm not saying your husband is definitely pulling something over on you, but you should be a responsible adult and learn to be smarter with your money. You are not a child and you are legally responsible for whatever he is doing.