I had to learn not to react to their (mostly mom), bad behaviors. Crying or continuing to tell them did not work through the years. I was asking them to change, and I can't change anyone but myself. Eventually, their behaviors changed, but in times of family crisis they revert back to old behaviors, and want me back in the old role, and I refuse to go there. I changed states, countries, and continents, with no luck. But, therapy was really helpful with me learning not to react, and to continue to hope that my offenders would change. I was unwilling to give up my loving, but toxic family, though I did let a few friends go. It sounds like you have a good attitude about your therapy. You'll get there.