Xyn, thank you for your quick response. Yes, he is my main source of support in sobriety (I don't go to AA where I live - I'm in a small town and I'm afraid to out myself; I do go to my profession's meetings when in the big city). I don't think it will exacerbate my transference - I sent him a note after the session where I told him about my transference (I describe how it went in the thread "questions for those who revealed feelings") to thank him for his professionalism, tact and graciousness - I had felt like I was going to die of shame and embarrassment and he helped me through that so well. Then on another occasion, between sessions, I felt the bottom was dropping out of my world and I called him for an emergency session. (He always reminds me that I can call him any time - which I don't, I think that was only the 2nd time I called him seeking an emergency session). A couple days after that session I dropped off at his place a small table-top flower arrangement with a very brief thank-you card - I was just going to leave it on his doorstep (he practices out of his home) but bumped into him as he was heading out at that time so had a quick word with him. So given my history in that department, thank you for your advice, yes I will drop off a note for him in his mailbox. I don't think it will negatively affect our relationship or exacerbate the transference - I am thinking it's time to wean myself off sessions anyway......I hope that "out of sight" does truly mean "out of mind." Although I have had therapy with him on and off over the last 15 years and - guess what! - my transference has lasted that long......but faded during the times I wasn't seeing him........